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We were never meant to do Personal Growth Alone!

❓Do the work by yourself? or are these relationship things needed?

❓Do we have an epidemic of blocking, unfriending, ghosting?

❓Do we run away from the unknown, the uncomfortable, the scary too much?

❓Do we need to learn how to share space, love and energy with others?

I started out as a Life coach, and a nutrition coach, then a yoga teacher, now a tri coach, or epic hard stuff. It has been interesting to see the progression of myself and how I have more tools to help others achieve their goals and dreams, and help them to see that they can achieve a whole lot more than what they thought possible. Pretty hard cool, I get to see miracles. All the stinking time.

I have been working on myself, pretty heavy for the last 5 to 10 years. I have a lot to unravel, clean up, clear out and all that. Rebuild stronger. More resilient. Through all of this, I see with each step forward that my abilities to help others increases. Cool.

Currently I am learning that we really do need each other. This is probably one of the biggest things that we are getting wrong. That we feel like we have to figure stuff out on our own. Our culture teaches that. And let’s face it, being vulnerable and asking for help. We really suck at that. We are super judgy of ourselves and others which makes this line of thought even more of a challenge. Why would you want to make yourself vulnerable to someone when maybe you fear them judging you and being an ass, which, perhaps thats historically what has happened. And frankly, I don’t see ourselves as a culture improving on this much.

Social media is sure making this even more of a emotional habit/escape that we do. It’s so easy to unfriendly someone, to ghost them, to not communicate. And then to take it up a notch and to post silly self rationalizing things that make you feel better. Promote the person not taking responsibility for it. AND we get acknowledgement and positive re-informcement for that crap tactic behavior because either the people liking and encourage you doon’t know the story, their own story is trigger or we just like being bullies and self righteous judges of all things. That mob mentality.

🙂 Gosh. That was a lot. #nmf

So, these relationships that we find ourselves in. Rarely do they go perfect. There is some rubbing. Especially with time. Our friends and lovers, children and what not are mirrors for our own stuff. We love to leave those relationships because it’s hard to look in the mirror and see someone that really embraces the victim role, can be an asshole, Whiney, etc. How’s that for judgy. We all have our stuff that promotes behaviors that hurt others. Period. Looking in the mirror, seeing it and working on it takes bravery.

AND RELATIONSHIPS. it takes communication, lessons, practice and another person helping you to learn the lesson. Because for FUCK SAKES, this stuff doesn’t come from Amazon. We have to earn it. We have to earn trust, security with others, a good relationship, peace, etc. We have to do the work that is on our plate. We have to show up. Dig. Then wash rinse repeat. It’s a dance that we have to learn. With a partner.

Doing it by ourselves isn’t working. Truly. Look at us as a culture.

We have to communicate our people what we are working on, we have to do the work, they need to give us space to practice and gentle guidance when we need to change it up and keep working. Just like learning to shoot hoops, drive a golf ball. We try. We practice. We adjust. We practice. We get help. We continue. To practice.

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❤️👊🏻💥 Life can be so hard somethings.

We have sons that struggle with mental health ... suicide thoughts and emotional pain is not as uncommon as we’d like to think. Seriously, being a mom is sooo tough. 💔Sometimes your heart seems to get pulled out your nose. 💔Relationships are tough. 🦠Managing our own crazy can be tough. Working on personal growth can really leave you feeling naked and ultra vulnerable.

🏊‍♀️So getting your tail to the pool or where ever can be a big effort. Especially as moms and bread winners, role models and the like ... we have to put the game faces on. Play like we are ok.

So for those of you who aren’t quite ok. ❤️❤️ Or just not ok ... hang in there. Try and reach out. Find someone you can say stuff to.

Today I was talking w someone who’s just starting out in tri. We know each other decently. She’s a real / honest / no drama kinda of girl. She said ... “swimming is your safe place, just don’t think of any of the bs”. And it really hit home. Swimming is my safe place. I’m not super fast. I’m have severe swim anxiety. But I’ve conquered all that. I’ve heal a nice portion of my soul in the pool and open water.

I’m doing this crazy challenge of 100x100s Jan 1. Which is kinda silly as I have a needy shoulder. Hahahaha. And right now I swim about 6 times a month. I haven’t same more than 2000 in a hot min. Like since IMTX18. Hahahaha. Omg. However. I do a lot of strength work and yoga/swim stuff.

🐠🦈AND I ROCKED THE HELL OUT IF THIS SWIM. 🐳🐡

👊🏻💥AND ROCKED THE HELL OUT OF LIFE for 1:25:34.

And that just helped me bounce back to feeling so much stronger and capable. I showed myself that ... yep. I’m stronger than what I was feeling.

So ladies. When you are feeling low. Defeated. Drowning w life or whatever. Keep your head up. Reach out. And show up. Get your mind right. Just for that workout or even 5 minutes. Whatever. Do the best you can, w putting all things to the side.

Oh. And I did some SUPERWOMAN Breathing!!! 5 minutes and BOOM!!! 💥🏋️‍♂️💥🏋️‍♂️💃

TRAINING NOTES:

  • 8 x 500, RI 0:30 (no swim tools or aids)
  • Pacing work. I worked to keep my mind with "calm and strong", working to have a nice solid pull each stroke.
  • I began to practice nutrition. Each 500 I would stop for 30 seconds for a drink. First couple of 500s I used 20oz of water with Liquid IV, 500mg Na, 400 Mg Potassium. The 2nd half of the swim I used my bike blend of Infinite. I didn't like this as much and burbed it up a bit. I will go with Liquid IV next time for the duration and perhaps Glukos Gels for calories.
  • My right shoulder and pinkie finger was numb/achy for the 3rd 500. But I worked on form and that went away.
  • My nose was INCREDIBLY snotting after. My ears were blocked for a number of hours, probably due to the sneezing and what not. I will need to address this for longer swims in that pool. Finding a salt water pool would be a real good idea.
  • Shoulders were not sore at all the next day. I do a couple of different swim specific strength training workouts. 4 times a week optimally. 2-3 is required. Neck was a bit sore the next day. Though I would imagine that is because the 4k was done only breathing to the left. I was not able to get to every 3 due to heart rate not being chill enough.

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