Life moves fast.
Things change on a D I M E
Life can be super surprising. One moment everything is fine and the next a parent dies, a child gets really sick, a husband leaves, you get laid off … the list goes on and on and on.
We have to navigate these things well. Sometimes we don’t.
Celebrating life daily is KEY to building resilience and a bias towards positive attitude, problem solving and action forward. We are not saying that you don’t feel your feelings and all that. However, we can feel our feelings and still continue to move forward in a problem solving, positive manner.
When we say … be more resilient … to be truthful I wonder how we cultivate this. For me, in previous years, I would have said that you had to work really hard. “Stay hard” or something like that right. David Goggins stuff. While I’m not saying that he’s not on point with a lot of what he says, but I do feel like we are … leaning way to far to that side of work hard until you make it.
I have learned in my life that we need more of the softer power. It’s not any less powerful, just different, which I believe makes us more resilient LONG TERM.
When we are young, it’s easy to work your ass off until you are epically in shape and all that. PUSH PUSH PUSH. And then keep pushing some more. As we get older and the body maybe wears down a bit, or we get injured, or we have some sort of medical condition that changes the game up for us … the your definition of what is “working hard” and what you are pushing is changes. Has to. Doesn’t make you less, makes your smart, because you are so much more than just “stay hard”. Sometimes the softer approach helps us to know when to rest. Sometimes we MUST REST when “stay hard” and “PUSH PUSH PUSH” is the default.
Like there is a lot of power in saying nothing instead of saying something.
There is power in approaching conflict with loving investigative questions instead of ignoring it or being brash/hard.
There is power and perhaps better healing in rest and loving, instead of constantly pushing to get “back” to something.
YOU CAN GO FREAKING BACKWARDS ANYWAY. LET THAT SHIT GO.
Resilience. Being able to stand up in a storm, and do the best that you can. FOR YOURSELF. AND FOR THOSE AROUND YOU. Contrary to all the memes and shit, it’s not all about you and what benefits you and shit. You are meant to do you and deal with your shit. As the other person is meant to do them and deal with their shit. You do these things simultaneously, and like FREAKING MAJIC … you both are stronger together. Parents. Partners. Friends. Lovers. Team. Protectors. Goal chasers.
Resilience is where you can handle your shit. And a bit of someone else’s as well.
Resilience is standing up and doing the right thing. For God, country, family, community and mankind. PERIOD.
When we draw our strength and motivation from things of love and God gifts, we will be so epically strong that we will sweat resilience out our pores and people will see us shine.
You will impact those around you in MAjIC ways. Miracles happen. You let faith go first ahead of the little bit that you know and SHIT JUST BOOMED.
That is true resilience.
So where do you store up this energy. Where do you CELEBRATE HONOR AND SOAK UP WHEN NEEDED more of the energy that makes you stronger. It’s not the damn gym, long runs, push push push pushing … it’s in the eyes of those you help, the achieves that you see and celebrate, the love and grit that you share. With yourself and with others.
THAT IS WHERE YOU DEVELOP THIS UNSHAKEABLE RESILIENCE
That stands up through the darkest of your times and those around you. You must see this energy. Save it. See it. Honor it. Store it. And soak it up when needed. When you are low.
In the digital world, we are taking all this good MAJIC away. For the most part. We need tangible, concrete, vault like ways of storing this energy for our souls.
Mine is with vision boards, dream boards, paper planners and celebrate love boards. I gaze on it. It’s not so much that it fills my heart and soul with good MAJIC … it just helps me to clear all the things in the way of connecting in with that power within myself. That is the secret. We are at 100%, always. We just let too many things get in the way, and we don’t have intentional ways of clearing the decks daily, hourly, whatever.