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Even adults need binkies

Meet Ganesh. My buddie that I’ve had for many years. I bought him for my birthday during my beginning years of yoga teacher training. It was a big turning point in my soul healing. Ganesh, for those that know yoga, means remover of obstacles. 🙂 I got a lot of them so I thought at the time that I could use all the help that I could find. Plus the blue eyes I fell in love with. And his soft looking face.

He’s gone with m to all trips, races and what not. Been with me through a ton of good things and ugly things. I’ve almost melted down when I’ve realized I’ve left him somewhere. I’ve done a lot of extra driving to make sure he is by my side.

Why … because he is an anchor for some qualities in life that I am working to cultivate. To have stronger in my life. And I believe in magic, miracles and pixie dust. Ganesh holds that idea for me when life gets tough.

Binkie. Security blanket. Totem. Prayer beads. Pet rock.

Overeating, sexting, drinking, mind numbing amounts of netflix.

Over exercising. Working too much. Yelling and blowing up.

It’s totally ok for babies and young people to have stuff animals, security blankets and the like. As adults/parents we know that one things the little people need to learn is how to soothe themselves, deal with emotions and learn how to be ok. Even when life is more fun.

We give the new babies a binkie. Some of us are partly given them binkies as a replacement for nurturing and being a parent. Tho a baby using a binkie to learn to self sooth is ok. When done mindfully. It’s a good point to drive home that it’s not unfrequent for parents to substitute parenting and nurturing for binkies, bouncing chairs and what not.

Our habit of inappropriately dealing with life starts very early.

We then give our children all these kinds of toys. Stuff animals and what not to … help them. Let’s just say that parent x is doing everything just fine and the special stuff animal that they purchase for their kid is just a lovely add to their life. It’s ok and needed for the child to bond with this stuff animal. To them it. Take care of it and what not. There are many life lessons that are learned, practiced. And it’ socially acceptable.

At what age does it become unacceptable to not have binkies and security blankets.

We give up the magic of stuff animals for tough love, logic and “growing up”. We learn to be more hard and shut off, then remain soft and talk to stuff animals that aren’t actually alive.

They are now selling weighted blankets.

Perhaps we are doing ourselves wrong with expecting to be able to deal with life without providing ourselves “comfort”. I mean, we do provide ourselves with “comfort” but it’s usually in the form of the lists above. Things that aren’t inline with super healthy.

Perhaps we need to get back to soothing ourselves in a soft way. Don’t be worried about what other people think. Have stuffed animals that we take everywhere with us. Stuffed animals that we keep in our meditation spaces or our quiet and private areas.

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What is SIBO

Small intestine bacterial overgrowth. This happens when bacteria that normally grows elsewhere in the gut takes residence in the small intestine.

This is a serious condition that can have a big negative impact on your health, well being and obviously training and racing.

Normally: the bacteria that we are chatting about, which are of the "GOOD" kind. These friendly bacteria usually live in the colon where they help to digest soluble fiber and makes vitamins/minerals that the body needs.

In other words - which leads to ...

  1. Too many friendly bacteria find their way to small intestines
  2. Bacteria flourishes and robs cells/body of simple carbs/sugars and interferes with nutrition absorption. In other words, the bacteria (now in a nutrient dense environment) complete for resources that your body needs. Overgrow can happen easily because of the nutrient rich (sugary foods) environment.
  3. Releases gasses - bloating, gas, nausea, vomiting, cramping
  4. Food / carb / nutrient absorption for the body is interrupted or negatively impacted. Especially vitamin B12.
  5. The bacteria that is eating with WILD ABANDON release gases that hurt the body by being released too far up the GI tract.
  6. Absorption problems can lead to malnutrition. Not having enough B12 is a very serious thing for the entire body. Then perhaps add that you are vegetarian. Are you actually absorbing the B12 that you might be taking? Same with meat eaters as well ... where we naturally "get B12". Fatigue, anemia, or brain fog.
  7. Fats are harder to break down . So you can become deficient in fat soluble vitamins.
  8. Carbohydrate absorption is affected as well, as the bacteria gets at it first.
  9. Contribute to Leaky Gut but causing inflammation of the tight junctions and affecting permeability.
  10. Villa in the gut get damaged further causing absorption issues.
  11. Inflammation and thinning of the mucosal lining.

SIBO IS BECOMING MORE AND MORE OF AN ISSUE

Currently 64% of folks going to GI specialists have found at SIBO is involved. They are saying that about 60% of folks with IBS are caused or can be traced back to SIBO.

Symptoms

  1. Pain in stomach, especially after eating
  2. Bloating
  3. Cramps
  4. Diarrhea / constipation
  5. Indigestion
  6. Regular feeling of fullness
  7. Gas
  8. Fatigue, anemia, brain fog

Causes

  1. Deficiency in the migrating motor complex MMC. Motility issues resulting in food and bacteria not passing through properly.
    • Series of movements/contractions to move food particles/bacteria out of the stomach and small intestines. MMC works between meals, cleaning. The moment food is in the mouth, the MMC stops. Works every 90 to 120 minutes. 2 hour process. Sweeps bacteria out of the small intestines into the colon where it belongs.
    • The MMC is most stunted by food poisoning and diabetes. In the case of food poisoning, whatever virus, bacteria or parasite gives off a toxin that damages nerves thus slowing down the MMC. It does this so your body can not get rid of it. Make sense? Smart of them. Diabetes also causes nerve damage that results in slower MMC movement/functionality.
    • Eating too frequently can alter the MMC "waves". If you are eating you are not cleaning. This is one of the underlying reasons that intermittent fasting helps. More cleaning going on.
  2. Defect in the ileocecal valve.
    • Valve that separates the small and large intestine. This allows a "reflux" type action to happen, allowing bacteria to "flow" back up into the small intestines. Infection. Parasite. Some other issue with undigested food.
  3. Structural defects from surgery or diverticulitis
    • Pouches form in the small intestines where bacteria can make a home in and grow.
    • This causes behind this are not for sure yet, tho a diet low in fiber might contribute. Also, when the stool is hard and the colon has to over exert itself, it can weaken the intestine wall, causing pouches to form.
    • Diverticulitis is where inflammation occurs due to this bacteria overgrowth and stress on the gut lining/environment. Most cases of diverticulitis do not form in the small intestines.
    • Intestine surgery, including stomach stapling can predispose an individual to SIBO.
  4. Compromised digestion due to low stomach acid and digestive enzymes. pH issues.
    • Stomach acid can normally kill off unwanted bacteria. But when it is low it can't do its job. So bacteria will collect in the small intestines. The use of antacids and proton pump inhibitors also contribute to SIBO, medications used for acid reflux. These medications can temporarily bring relief but long term they do not help the root cause and can make it worse. Any medication that affects the pH of the stomach acid, meaning make it LESS acidic can contribute to SIBO.
  5. Weakened immune system
    • Normally the immune system can take care of the bacteria when they grow out of place and the toxins that they produce. If they immune system is low there aren't enough resources to handle the stress. FYI. Keep in mind that chronic stress weakens the immune system. A weakened immune affects the MMC directly or if you take antibiotics this causes a VOID in the gut where opportunist bacteria can take over and grow like wild fire. Making the whole situation worse.

SIBO IS STUBBORN AND CAN REOCCUR

Some studies show a reoccurrence rate of 45%. Relapse can happen in a few days, weeks or months. Most common reoccurrence is within a couple weeks to months where it is being show that 70-80% of SIBO cases/reoccurrence is due to MMC issues. In these cases getting rid of the overgrowth is only 1/2 the battle. Repairing MMC functionality is key.

Risk factors: Crohn’s, diabetes, scleroderma, HIV, Parkinson’s, hypothyroidism, medications that slow down the bowel, like narcotics, ? Mag low?

To test for: breathe (bacteria releases hydrogen and methane) (fasted), blood, fecal, other

Natural Antimicrobials:

  • Cinnamon
  • Coptis
  • Indian barberry
  • Lemon Balm
  • Neem
  • Oregano
  • Red Thyme

Fixing

  1. Feed the bacteria to bring them out and medicate
  2. Low residue diet, less fiber, work on root cause
  3. Lifestyle - support Migrating motor complex, between the meals activity in the gut to get food and bacteria to large intestines.
    • Several hours between meals
    • 3 meals a day
    • Eliminate snacks
    • Avoid eating at least three hours before bed

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